Archive for April, 2007

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Friday, April 27th, 2007

If relationships are at the heart of happiness, communication is at the centre of relationships; it is how we connect, share our experiences and feelings, and build the bonds of love and goodwill.

But it’s an art, not a science.

Keeping communication lines open can be a challenge whether it’s a new romance or an old friendship.

Giving vent to our feelings rather than harbouring them.

Sometimes merely voicing a thought makes us realize how unjustified our concerns are.

© pink-ai

a Stone to plunk…oneself to Love

Thursday, April 26th, 2007

as i plunk a stone into an expanse of water, i watch as the circling ripples send the news in every direction. it takes a long time for the circles to dissipate.

our lives are like that.

there’s been hard stones that have been dropped into my life and funny stones that have sent ripples of laughter into my days, and the sacred stones of love and tenderness that have circled me with sweet meaning and safety.

all are important, just as i am.

a stone to represent myself whether the stone is rough or worn, polished or new. i am important as in the sands of time. my business here is bottom-line valuable.

there’s been hard and beautiful ways i have been plunked into the lives of others. thanks to those who recognized my visit for good. forgive those who werent watching their toes. i did what i understood at the time. next time, i will think like water and go to the low places with my soothing love to sooth myself.

© pink-ai

the aRt of Listening…

Thursday, April 26th, 2007

When someone really listens to you, bridges are built, and chasms are crossed. Listening really is a great and wonderful thing. Unfortunately, it is also too often forgotten…So, take this as the cornerstone of your own philosophy, helping to forge meaningful and lasting relationship with other human beings.

- listen with your eyes

make eye contact. watch the speaker’s body language, and discover how he or she really feels about the subject.

- listen to what hasnt been said

what has been said reveals much, but what hasnt been said, often, speaks volumes more.

- listen without interrupting

dont complete other people’s sentences, resist asking a question in the middle of a sentence, and please stop thinking about your own rebuttal.

- listen with 100% attention

give your undivided attention - focusing only on that person for that moment. forget you have watch; even forget that you are listening.

- listen with your ears

the words are important but do also listen to the volume, the intonation and even the pauses that together complete the message.

- listen with your hands

take notes, and you will find that you’ll be able to recall much more of what you have heard.

- listen with absolute patience

this is especially important when listening to those who cant seem to stop talking. when they have been heard, they often do stop talking, and start listening.

- listen to your inner self

learn to listen to the whispers of your heart and your soul; of what’s right and what’s not. you know so much more that you give yourself credit for.

- just listen

because when you listen, you are being loving, and are loved in return.

© pink-ai

my Journal…along the way…

Saturday, April 14th, 2007

Perhaps like me, my soul language has been writing since it was nothing but scribbles to anyone but ourselves. This is my space for purposeful play and adventurous self-discovery and it will serve as my virtual sandbox.

When i was young, everything became a tool for fun. I was not only scribbled with crayons and pencils, but with sticks in the dirt and egg yolks on the trays of my high chairs. I arranged stones, buttons and leaves in patterns i found pleasing, just because i liked them my certain way. I wrote in circles and upside down. I spelled words backward and in code. I stopped and started sentences any place i felt that i like it.

It’s time to return to that blissful state of mind, particularly if it’s been a long time since i fely in complete control of anything in my life. Nothing heals hurts, restores confidence, and nourishes life with joy like creating your own pages.

We are all artists and writers at heart. Forget skill levels and target for joy. Let your journal become your sandbox. Colour or cover over your sketches and add your own art. Have fun! There are no lines you have to stay inside.

© pink-ai

the Art of Saying II

Friday, April 13th, 2007

There is power of life and death in the tongue. An encouraging word to someone who is down can lift them up and help them make it through the day.

A destructive word to someone who is down can be what it takes to kill them. Be careful of what you say……

Speak life to those who cross your path. The power of words… it is sometimes hard to understand that an encouraging word can go such a long way. Anyone speak words that tend to rob another of the spirit to continue in difficult times. Special is the individual who will take the time to encourage another. The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.

© pink-ai

you Are Worth it

Friday, April 13th, 2007

do not undermine your worth by comparing yourself with others

it is because we are different that each of us is special

do not set your goals by what other people deem important

Only you know what is best for you.

do not take for granted the things closest to your heart

Cling to them as you would your life, for without them life is meaning less.

do not let your life slip through your fingers by living in the past nor the future

By living your life one day at a time, you live all the days of your life.

do not give up when you still have something to hang on

nothing is really over until the moment you stop trying

It is a fragile thread that binds us to each other.

do not be afraid to encounter risks

it is by taking chances that we learn how to be brave

Do not shut love out of your life by saying it is impossible to find.

do not dismiss your dreams

to be without dreams is to be without hope

To be without hope is to be without purpose.

do not run through life so fast that you forget not only where you have been, but also where you are going.

Life is not a race But a journey to be savoured each step of the way.

© pink-ai

Understanding the aRt of saying……

Friday, April 13th, 2007

What you say and what you dont say are both important.

Proper speech is not only saying the right words at the right time, but controlling your desire to say what you shouldn’t.

Before you speak, ask yourself ‘Is it true?’, ‘is it neccesary?’, and ‘It is kind?’

The uncontrolled tongues can do terrible damage.

A few words spoken in any bad emotion can destroy a relationship that took years to build.

Words are like fire - we can neither control nor reverse the damage they can do. 

© pink-ai

we’Ve………But…..

Friday, April 13th, 2007

we have taller buildings, but shorter tempers;

wider highways, but narrower viewpoints;

more conveniences, but less time;

we have more degrees, but less common sense;

more knowledge, but less judgement;

more experts, but more problems;

we have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.

we’ve learned how to make a living but not a life; we;ve addded years to life, not life to years.

we’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet the new neighbour.

we’ve conquered outer space but not inner space; we’ve done larger things but not better things;

we’ve cleaned up the air but polluted the soul; we’ve split the atom but not our prejudice;

we write more but learn less; plan more but accomplish less.

we build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever but have less communication;

we’ve become long on quantity but short on quality.

these are the times of fast food and slow digestion, tall men but short temper, steep profits and shallow relationships.

these are times of world peace but domestic warfare, more leisure and less fun, more kinds of food but less nutrition.

these are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one-night stands and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill.

It is a time when there is much in the show window and nothing in the stock room.

only us, ourselves, can save us from ourselves from all these……..

© pink-ai

soLes of Good

Sunday, April 1st, 2007

Realize your little-noticed or appreciated aspects of Self.

Imagine turning just one facet of you upside down or right-side out as a "what-if" surprise.

There are always good new things might happen in your life.

How would you feel and behave? Why? Who would be impressed or shocked? Why?

It is a risk to be true to Self.

It is a risk to not be true to Self.

Either way there may be uncomfortable consequences.

You are the only one who know what you are willing to risk to feel comfy in your own skin.

© pink-ai